your heart for a story of mine?

Because social media is what it is, I am reposting all my links and info (but honestly, I have a linktree in my bio so you can find it all there if you need it. For the sake of being thorough, however, I am gonna do this anyway.)

Linktree: https://linktr.ee/thercooper

Pillowfort: https://www.pillowfort.social/RCooper

Instagram: @riscoops

Facebook (sigh): @thealmightyris

Patreon: patreon.com/rcoops

BookBub: @ r-cooper

The website: www.riscooper.com

The mailing list (mailing list is maybe once a month, and also free, of course)

You can also find me as a listed author on Goodreads. I even post updates there. But I don’t spend time there. GR is a strange, confusing place, and I don’t think meant for authors.

(Yes, I am mentally shouting SPACEBALLS: THE WEBSITE! SPACEBALLS: THE MAILING LIST!“ as I type these)

Hopefully, I didn’t forget any. :)

yg-ou:
i’m reeling over this ad to where i can’t even think of anything funny to say about it
Perfect way to describe Ross

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bluebeardsfinalgirl:
when internet people are like “i love gothic literature but i hate anything that discusses incest, sexual violence, oppression, misogyny, abuse, torture, gore, murder, or death”
tags by @trinitysyndrome

Source: strinak

skinty-fia:
emmajanereading:
porcupine-girl:
I was showing my class that, contrary to popular belief, divorce rates aren’t at an all-time high but actually peaked in the 80s. When I asked them why they thought divorce rates went up so quickly in the 60s-70s, none of them could guess. One guy thought it might be because of all the “free love,” drugs, etc but I told him it wasn’t all hippies getting divorces. Not a single one of them had any idea just how hard it was for women to leave an abusive marriage before the late 1960s at the earliest.
In the late 90s, having secured a permanent and full-time position as a teacher, I applied for a car loan. During the conversation with the credit union rep I was told that I was a risk because I might get married within the 5 year loan period (with the unspoken implication that if this hypothetical marriage were to occur it would immediately result in my becoming a housewife) and that, not entirely linked to the possibility of nuptials, I might also get pregnant (and again, be rendered incapable of paid work.)
I was dumbstruck.
My parents had to go guarantors for the loan. My freaking parents.
I was in my mid-20s. I had a well-paying, secure job. I was single with zero intent to marry, and even if it had been on the cards it sure as fuck wouldn’t have been to the sort of person who would immediately insist I quit my job and stay at home.
But apparently, the fact that I was a woman overshadowed all of that stuff. That single factor meant I was a risky prospect and had to get my parents to back me.
It was absolute bullshit.
Dude, women in Ireland were forced to resign from their jobs upon getting married up until 1973
In the late 60s, no-fault divorce became possible, and it spread throughout the US through the 70s.
The combination of “you do not have to prove to a [male] judge and [mostly-male] jury that your husband is abusive (without being able to afford a lawyer)” and “you can now have a bank account in your own name” did indeed kick off many, many divorces.
Divorce rates are lower now. Marriage rates are also lower now - because, again, women no longer need to get married to get access to a bank account, rent an apartment, own a car, etc.

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Reblog and put in the tags things most people are afraid of but you aren’t

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beneaththegildedmoon:
animentality:
From my experience what these people actually want is confirmation that their experiences were normal and correct and that it’s the world that has gone wrong. That’s why confronting them with the fact that actually how they were treated was literally abuse makes them so upset, they don’t want to acknowledge that they were (and often still are) victims of people and systems outside their control. They were raised with the mindset that to admit something hurt you was a weakness. They were raised to believe that suffering through hardship silently is a sign of good character and strength. They want to be praised for being so strong, not sympathised with for being so hurt, they just don’t know what to do with that massive shift in perspective
OH GOD I’ve done this a lot over the years…I can’t help it. An acquaintance or friends of friends bring up casual child abuse stories as proof or some rhetorical device and I know I changed at least one of their entire world views in the process bc he told me like a year later. Just meet everyone who shares this stuff with empathy (which sometimes THEY view as pity, that’s on them.) It’s wildly effective although I’ve been told that it can be a “downer” but when that came up I was like “you think him talking about getting hit with a belt in the first place wasn’t the downer??”

Source: warpsbyherself

I’m going to go out on a limb and say that no TV writer in the history of the world has made a show bad on purpose so they can do a big reveal later down the line that it was actually secretly good. like i could be wrong here but i don’t think that’s something that happens.

Source: teacupsandcyanide

working in healthcare has both radicalized me further left and made me like so more frustrated with ideologues for whom the good enough is the enemy of the perfect. Like I truly believe the best solution for most of our health problems is to provide people with universal healthcare, universal housing, and universal basic income. I think anything less than that will be ultimately less effective in noticeably improving the life of the majority of my patients who are most desperately need help. Also these patients need care now and will not live to see the realization of a better, kinder society. If we refuse any partial or compromised improvement, people will unnecessarily suffer and die. But also I think we need uncompromising leftists who take principled stands and drag us further left as a result. But also they are not always good on committees. It’s a difficult balancing act, one I’ve never (and likely will never) fully reconciled within mythm344444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444444uiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiii sorry the cat jumped on the keyboard but she’s right you know, you work as best you can with the world you got while trying to make it better, I think that’s what she was trying to type, but when I pressed her on details about that, she dumped ten pounds of cat litter on the floor